Be it a relationship, personal life or professional career, knowing how to be emotionally strong in tough situations will have a very positive impact on your life. Stress can have numerous negative effects on your mind and body. When you are not emotionally strong, you behave differently in moments of stress; for instance, some resort to crying, while others may become quiet until they feel better.
Understanding how to deal with your emotions and finding the reason behind these emotions will help you understand yourself in a better way. It will also help you to get over the negative feeling that you are a weak person.
Many people worry that they are emotionally weak in their relationships. You put out blame on people around you for your sadness. Because of this negative belief, you get dependent on others for your happiness. To satisfy your emotional needs, you seek constant validation from people around you.
If you think you are emotionally weak, you may feel-
-You have many relationship issues; if your partner is not behaving the way you want them to, you will be upset and develop resentment against them.
-Every now and then, you feel sad and depressed because you think your happiness is dependent on other people. You expect people around you to compensate for your lack of self-love.
-You strongly believe that your happiness is completely dependent on other people. You always feel stuck; inside your mind, you often feel helpless. You worry about what’s going to happen should someone you love to start behaving differently. What if they start doing things that could be hurtful to you?
How do you become emotionally strong in a relationship?
It is not like you did some minor tweaks, and you are suddenly emotionally stronger. If you have decided to improve your emotional strength, you must understand that it will take time and effort. Here are a few helpful tips that you can use-
1. Embrace challenges.
It is not right to beat yourself up when things don’t go as planned. Success and failures are equally important; you learn more from failing than winning; it helps make you a better version of yourself.
When you are facing a hard time in your relationship, you have a decision to make, how are you going to deal with it. Are you going to accept the challenges, or will you surrender?
When you decide to take upon adversaries with a positive mindset, it completely changes your perspective about life.
Try looking at your challenges as learning experiences that will make you a better human being; practising positive psychology will help you improve your emotional strength in the relationship.
2. Enjoy Yourself.
There is nothing better in this world than Smiling, enjoying, having a great time. It is believed that when you flood your inner self with happiness and laughter, it helps uplift the spirits in stressful relationships.
When you feel emotionally weak, you can try watching a ‘feel-good movie or going out with people who always bring a smile to your face.
The more you try to enjoy yourself and adapt to a happier lifestyle, you feel more emotionally stronger.
Healthy laughter gives you physical and emotional strength; it brings people closer to you. When your support system is filled with smiles and happiness, it gives you the strength to become emotionally stable in tough times.
3. Accept the Problems.
Instead of worrying about your problems, the best thing to do is accept the problems in your relationship. Only when you accept them can you move forward to find a positive solution for these problems.
Many of us tend to take excessive stress for even the smaller problems in a relationship; this stress makes us emotionally weak. Instead of finding a solution, we wrongly choose to deny, blame and argue with our loved ones.
Before trying to solve any problem, we must mentally accept it as a problem. When we accept, it means we are taking responsibility for it. When we avoid accepting the problem, rather than finding a solution, we spend a lot of time and energy fighting it.
4. Have a Healthy Lifestyle.
We derive our emotional strength from within. Only when you make better lifestyle choices like eating healthy food and taking proper care of your body can you develop good emotional strength.
Remember, the moment you make healthier choices for yourself and invest more time and effort in self-care, you strengthen yourself.
5. Forgive and Forget.
We have all heard that we must forgive others, but what does it really mean? No doubt, forgiving sounds nice, but what to do when you are not ready to forgive? Especially in the case when our loved ones have wronged us in a way we never imagined, and they don’t even feel bad about it?
We must understand that being hurt brings tremendous physical and emotional burdens. Scientific research has shown that being forgiving makes you emotionally strong and leads to healthier relationships.
Apart from the psychological effects, being forgiving helps reduce blood pressure and maintain a healthy immune system.
If you are bothered about something that your partner has done and you have realized you can’t do anything about it, it’s best for you to move on with your life instead of being angry and hurtful about it.
6. Open – Up.
Showing trust in each other and being comfortable expressing your feeling is an essential component of a healthy relationship. When we get to express ourselves openly, it helps us strengthen the bond with our romantic partner.
When you are stressed and disappointed, please don’t take it as a sign of emotional weakness. Don’t hide your emotions; accept them. When you allow yourself to express your emotions properly, it helps to make yourself stronger from the inside.
7. Don’t think compromises are negative.
Being ‘adjusting’ and compromising is not always a bad thing. When you believe that your partner truly loves and cares for you, there is no harm in compromising on smaller issues to better the relationship.
When you make healthy compromises in a positive light to help grow your relationship, you are adding meaning to the relationship and becoming a stronger, emotionally balanced person.
8. Draw Limits.
While there is nothing wrong with making healthy compromises in a relationship, but there should be a fine line. If something is making you feel frustrated and suffocated in a relationship, you must address the issue.
You should maintain a balance between where you are going to compromise and where you are not.
Rather than stressing out, it is best to sit with your partner and let him know your concerns and tell him what is okay and what is not. You both must draw the limits.
Being emotionally strong is all about not getting discouraged in tough times and moving forward by resolving the problem and finding positive solutions to challenges.
9. Don’t Judge Yourself.
When you constantly judge yourself, it lowers your self-esteem. Many of us fear getting judged negatively by people we love, whereas we completely overlook that we are constantly being negatively judged by ourselves.
This negative habit have a very damaging effect on our psychological health; it makes us emotionally weak. In some cases, it may also lead to anxiety and depression.
When you negatively judge yourself, you stop yourself from doing things you want; you distance yourself from people who care for you. To become emotionally strong and lead a satisfying life, you have to stop judging yourself negatively.
Be compassionate about yourself; try to figure out why you behave in a specific manner. Instead of trying to shut them out, Accept your feelings and emotions the way they are. If you want to become emotionally strong in a relationship, you must stop negative self-talk; they lower your morale and makes you feel bad about yourself.