We get intuitions all the time, but when push comes to shove, we don’t give these gut feelings much importance.
Experts suggest that we must always listen to our intuitions as they can come in handy in difficult situations.
This is especially in the case when you have a gut feeling that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Maybe you don’t have any specific reason, no evidence, but still, you feel worried all the time.
Intuition is different for everyone; some of us get a gut feeling, some start hearing voices, while others see visions. When you start ignoring them, it becomes difficult for your intuitions to deliver the message they want to deliver.
It’s your choice whether to take your intuitions seriously or not.
When you have a gut feeling that he is cheating on you, it makes you wonder – are you imagining things and being overreactive? Or he’s seriously cheating on you?
In a situation like this, It will be in your best interest to listen to your gut feeling. Your focus should be to dig deeper and get to the core of the issue.
Before you jump to any conclusion regarding your boyfriend, you need to understand that the definition of cheating is very subjective. Some people will prefer not to consider micro-cheating as a real problem, whereas others will consider following some other girl on social media as a full-on act of cheating. In the circumstances like this, it will be helpful if you are on the same page with your partner with regard to what cheating means to both of you.
Secondly, before you conclude, you must ensure that your boyfriend ticks multiple boxes here. If he only shows one or two signs, it won’t necessarily mean he is cheating on you. It will be better if you discuss things with him before accusing him of cheating.
Below are some signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you-
1. Constant Mood Swings
Things feel great when he is super sweet with you, but it gets very disappointing when you see him getting mad at you over small things. His mood swings become one of the top reasons why you feel unhappy in this relationship with him. Sometimes, these mood swings indicate that he is having an affair outside of this relationship.
It is believed that when a man is cheating, he constantly goes through emotions like guilt, anger, and confusion. And these emotions are the reasons why you see him often lashing out at you.
2. He is Always Busy
Ideally, you’ll have a pretty good idea about what is going on in your boyfriend’s life. But, when he always finds reasons to be away from you, you will get a strong gut feeling that something is off.
You’ll often see him coming up with excuses to get away from you – a crisis at work that only he can handle or a seminar he must attend.
Because he is always so busy, you often feel he has no time for you. Sometimes, he goes incognito for hours, and you are left with no channel to get in touch with him.
When you seek an explanation from him, he comes up with needless and elaborate answers. If he’s cheating on you, he’ll always pretend he is too busy and stressed to talk about anything.
Your intuition will tell you that he is lying.
3. His Instagram Feed is Only About Him
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he’ll make it a point to not include your photos on his social media posts. When someone is in a happy relationship, ideally, they will post a lot of ‘together’ pictures on their Instagram profile. But, when you are absent from his Instagram feed, it can indicate that he is cheating on you.
4. He’s Always Irritated With You
If he is having an affair, you’ll notice that he suddenly gets irritated with everything you say or do. He’s never available for you, and when you seek his company, he’ll make you feel that you’re being clingy.
You’ll find it weird because earlier he used to love spending time with you, but now he has completely changed.
There could be many reasons behind this sudden change in his behavior, and one of the reasons could be that he is having an affair.
5. He Never Answers His Phone Calls in Front of you
He stays inside his car to finish his phone call when he returns home from work. Whenever his phone rings, he leaves the room to answer the call. He’ll tell you that these calls are work-related, but you find it difficult to believe. When he doesn’t want you to hear what he’s saying on these calls, it’s a sign that he is trying to hide something from you.
6. He Has Suddenly Changed His Routines
When you see him changing his routines without any reason or explanation, it is natural to get curious and alarmed. Notice his behavior. Have you seen any change in how he spends his day? For instance- Is he leaving for work earlier and coming back late? Has he suddenly started to go to work on Sundays? Is he spending more time on his phone than usual?
When you ask him about his changed routine- He’ll get stressed and will blame you for exaggerating things.
7. He Doesn’t Speak With You That Often
When he comes home, he is so busy and tired that he forgets to ask you about your day. Although he loves speaking for hours with his friends, he rarely speaks with you. Having adequate and strong communication is key to a healthy relationship. When he stops speaking with you, it will negatively affect your physical and emotional intimacy with him. If this continues for a more extended period of time, there is a very bright chance of him losing interest in you.
Even when he is free, he would prefer to spend his time with his phone rather than talking with you.
When your boyfriend starts behaving like this, it becomes difficult to ignore these signs.
8. He Has No Interest in Going Out With You
He was always excited to go out with you in the initial days. You’d go to your favorite restaurants and spend hours talking with each other. But now it seems that he has lost his interest in you. You’ll rarely see him making any plans for the weekend with you.
Although he loves going out with his friends, he will always have some sort of excuse when it comes to dinner plans with you. When he ignores you like this, it is natural for you to have the intuition that he’s cheating on you. It makes you feel that he is trying to distance himself from you and has no interest in maintaining good intimacy in the relationship.
9. You Are No More a Part of His Future Plans
Earlier, when he used to talk about the future, he always used the word ‘We’. But now it seems that you are no more a part of his future plans. When you point this out, he comes up with explanations you find hard to believe. When this happens repeatedly, it will give you a feeling that you are in a relationship with a selfish man who doesn’t want to be with you in the long run.
When he doesn’t include you in his plans, it strongly indicates that he is cheating on you.
How to overcome these thoughts about him being cheating?
Dealing with a situation like this is easier said than done. Thoughts about your partner cheating on you may originate from your fear of abandonment and being hurt. If you do not address these thoughts timely, they soon start controlling your life.
It is often said that “when you’re looking for something, you’ll find it.” Sometimes when you start looking for signs that he is cheating on you, it does more harm than good for you. Maybe he’s not cheating on you, but if you are constantly insecure about him leaving you – your behavior may ultimately push him away from you.
Maybe you have had bad experiences with your ex. Still, when you unnecessarily accuse your boyfriend of cheating, you risk damaging your relationship beyond repair. If you don’t trust him, sooner or later, he will fall out of love with you.